Does it exist? Is there really only one person out there for each individual? No, I don’t believe this is the case, even though it is a nice thought, that one person out there belongs with you for the rest of your life.
I may sound cynical, but believe it or not I am actually in a long-term relationship, and love him very much, but maybe we just illusion ourselves with the concept of true love to protect ourselves from the pain we all know love can create. Sometimes telling yourself ‘it is meant to be this time’ helps eradicate the walls we build each time a relationship turns sour, but you are not being true to yourself, nor have you completely let go of your resentments.
The key elements I believe are essential for a romantic relationship is compatibility, hard work, and respect for each others’ differences. Because I guarantee, no matter who you are with, differences are always going to arise, and it is up to you to acknowledge them, but not try and change them.
When I say compatibility, I don’t mean you have to possess the same interests, but a shared view of what you want from life and what you require from a relationship. Respecting each others wishes is how you begin to fully understand a person and the experiences and thought processes that contribute to who they are.
Surely we have been around long enough and experienced enough to know that fairy tales do not exist, and you are being naïve if you believe otherwise. We seem to have it in our minds that a relationship is the sole purpose for our happiness, however if you think about it, giving someone that amount of responsibility, placing your happiness in the hands of someone else is an absurd thought (one I have been guilty of possessing every so often). Why have something as important as your own happiness dependent on the behaviour and love of another person. Surely it makes more sense to always remain in control.
Too many people tend to chuck in the towel these days before they have even given it a chance. True love doesn’t exist, hard work does.
As the saying goes “anything worth having is worth working for”
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